Emotional Affairs: Affairs with an opposite sex that destroys your marital relationship. In essence, I would even call it “Emotional Cheating”
Emotional affairs is not only common with married, but also with singles who believe they aren’t ready for the “big thing” sex, but can fool around with the “younger brother” – emotional satisfaction forgetting it is easy to get to the “senior brother” – sex through it. Check out the link…
But my concentration for today is the married. It is an emotional cheating to your spouse when you take solace and confidence in another person other than your spouse.
This is an emotional cheating because, emotion can be satisfied, and you don’t eat after you are filled. Hence, once someone else satisfies your emotional thirst, your spouse suffers it.
Let me share an emotional cheating scenerio:
He flows easily with female gender, some even label him “romantic”. When his marriage suffers, he gladly shift focus to emotional affairs option. Gets involved with an interesting, intelligent, smart, funny lady, with whom he spend as much times as he desires in the name of work or busy. The chemistry was obvious, at times you hug and kissed her passionately, but no sex occurred yet? But, must you wait till then!
They made a connection with each other every morning, and their chats became more and more personal. He definitely talked to her about anything, although all in a way to satisfy his emotional hunger. “I talk to her about anything, including matters that has to do with my wife, because my marriage was so unhappy. She really know how to satisfy my emotional needs.
Really! Okay! Bravo!
But is that truly cheating? Afterall, we didn’t have sex.
“Many of these emotional affairs are just a step away from sexual affairs and will eventually bask into sexual affairs. And if not, the guilt in your hearts won’t allow you rest. Because the intimate attachment with this person have a huge negative impact on your relationship with your spouse. Unlike the afore-thought of bringing joy and happiness to your life, it leads to sorrow and pain. It’s just like putting a square peg in a round hole, it just won’t fix.
Unfortunately, if you spend the time wasted on emotional infidelity into your home, your marriage will be better and more beautiful. Hence, it is essential to sort out issues in your home before it goes out of hand and land you into the lap of a promiscuous person. Proverbs 6:34:35 warns that for jealousy kindles a husband’s rage, and he will not show mercy when he takes revenge.
35 He will not consider any compensation; he will not be willing, even if you multiply the compensation.
So, back-off!
Can’t I have a relationship with the opposite sex because I’m married? I’m sorry you can’t have a close relationship with the opposite sex, especially if emotions are attached; ranges from your EX, or a guy or lady you admire a lot, or someone attracted to you…the list goes on. The above are signals that you have overstepped your boundaries
1 When you put the person in a special place in your heart other than your spouse.
2 When you prefer to satisfy the other person at the expense of your home.
3 When you spend more time and emotional intimacy with the other person
4 When pleasing the person is your high priority
5 When what is important to you is how to manoeuvres to find ways to spend time together.
- When you keep what you share with the person a secret, to the extent that you lie to your spouse all in the name of looking for what you have at home.
7 When you feel to protect the person, while your home is under spiritual attack.
8 When you prefer the other person’s option to your spouse’s
9 When you do, say or practice together things that your spouse must not see you do.
10 When you are romantic to the person.
Why this is very wrong is that, it takes time to build up, it’s so subtle that you won’t even notice you are hurting your marriage on time, until you find yourself in an uncontrollable mess. Because, when it builds up, it so hard to quit. But if you must survive this and your marriage, you have to come to a term with yourself and end this ungodly relationship.
And if you are at the receiving end, don’t think, “I’m just comfortable with him, he is pleasant to be with, he is romantic. “I’m sorry, he is another woman’s husband, let him be please”. Even if he didn’t want to leave you, please leave him.
And for the man, you think she is cute and intelligent, “she is just having it rough with her husband, please let her heart go back to her husband” or direct her to a godly counselor.
And if you think it’s too hard to stop, it might be because the enemy has hooked up with you. Pray effectively and confess to God and to your spouse, together you will win.
God will calm every form of storm and safeguard your home from every form of attacks in Jesus name. And you too, stay clear off… Flee!
I love you and I love your marriage. May the hold of the enemy be broken over your marriage and relationship in Jesus name. Amen!
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